Dr. Corey Allan
The true man wants two things; danger and play. For that reason he wants a woman, as the most dangerous plaything. ~ Friedrich W. Nietzsche
Love is a process, not just a feeling. It produces action. Being married is no different.
Hello, I’m Corey Allan (if you want to be formal it’s Dr. Corey Allan, but we’re pretty informal here) and I’m glad you’ve stopped by.
I’m a husband, father, author, speaker, as well as a Marriage and Family Therapist with a Ph.D. in Family Therapy.
My main belief - life is choice (so is marriage). Therefore I choose to:
- Grow deeper Spiritually
- Keep it simple
- Be passionate
- Live in community with others
- Enjoy the ride
Marriage is more about becoming a better human than it is about the two people being happy. And when you keep things simple, you can experience more in marriage and life.
That is what marriage really means: helping one another to reach the full status of being persons, responsible and autonomous beings who do not run away from life. ~ Paul Tournier
As for me, I’ve been married to my wife for 19 years and we have 2 children.
We are also followers of Christ and believe that a vibrant and alive Christian marriage is vital to the world and God’s Kingdom. While this course is not about my theology, much of my beliefs and perspectives are shaped by my relationship with Christ and other believers so this will come out in some of my writing.
For a marriage relationship to flourish, there must be intimacy. It takes an enormous amount of courage to say to your spouse, “This is me. I’m not proud of it — in fact, I’m a little embarrassed by it — but this is who I am. ~ Bill Hybels
Michael Smalley, M.A.
My passion is in teaching couples the principles of loving well and loving for a lifetime. I’ve written books and spoken all over the world to many people, but honestly, the biggest desire of my heart is to eliminate divorce as a reality for couples! In my travels to India, China, Africa, Europe, and many places in North America, I’ve discovered something amazing.
The principles I’ve learned in more than 18-years of working clinically, pastorally, and educationally with couples, work in every country I’ve ever visited! I honestly did not believe the things I learned and taught would be applicable to couples in other countries, but I’ve sat in the mud huts in Africa and India and watch couples and families apply the very same principles you are going to learn in Married Life. They are honestly and genuinely core fundamentals to healthy relationships that I’ve watched work in many of the countries around the planet.
But the thing I’m most proud of is the woman I fell in love with when I was just eighteen, Amy. She captured my heart quickly, to where I even became a male cheerleader at Baylor University in hopes she would notice me and eventually fall in love. My initial plan failed miserably, but as we became good friends, eventually I won over her heart and we got married almost 18-years ago.
Our biggest accomplishment professionally has been the Smalley Center, an organization we started in 2005 as a result of our Smalley Intensive program. We now have 6 locations around the country helping couples stay married at a success rate of 85% (traditional marital therapy is around 20% successful).
We have three kids, Cole, Reagan, and David. We are proud parents, love our kids, but because of the stuff you are going to learn in The Simple Marriage, we can’t wait till our empty nest years so we can continue growing in love and having a blast!
If you want to truly understand me, then maybe this quote from one of my favorite comics will help point you in the right direction:
“It’s good to be here. I’m just trying to go through life without looking stupid. It’s not working out too well. ” ― Comedian Brian Regan